I've been on my search for a donor now for 2 years it's been a long stressful road, though through most of it I've tried to remain hopeful.
It's not easy searching for a donor, sometimes I feel vulnerable as I need to explain my life and why I need a transplant. Other times I'm just scared of rejection and never finding that person that can be my living hero, and help me be able to put my life back on track.
Through these two years I've only been able to contact (either in person or through the internet) 15 people, those who said they would like to know more about being a donor and how to start the process. At first, when confronted with "seemingly" future prospect heroes my go-to reply was to tell them thank you, and even if it didn't work out at least they gave me hope. Sadly, this is no longer the case.
Of the 15 who said they definitely wanted to get tested to see if they were a match only 3 actually went through the process! One was deemed unsuitable for me, one decided to drop out (this is a personal decision, and I can at least respect they attempted to as well as their decision to drop out), and the last person was a match however her BMI was way too high for surgery. On last contact she is having a lot of trouble losing the amount of weight she would need to, I also have sympathy for this situation as it is not easy to lose weight. What about the other 12, you ask? "Ghosting" and made up excuses. This is a big issue, it's now made me more of a pessimist that I will ever find that special someone to help me.
So if you are thinking about donating here are a few things I want you to know:
1.) Be sure this is something you want to do, giving someone hope is great. But false hope just becomes hard to deal with for my family and myself.
2.) There are no financial gains from being a donor, this is actually illegal in the US. What you will receive is a good friendship and whatever I am able to supply as a friend.
3.) While there is no finical gain to you there is also no financial expense. My insurance pays for everything regarding testing, surgery, and pain meds after surgery (for the donor).
4.) You can still have a normal life after being a donor, just as I am able to have a normal life agian. Workout activites, dietary choices, etc.